How can we therapists help heal what Esther Perel calls the “Love/Lust split” we see so often? As therapists, we’ve seen over and over that while couples, as I say, tend to do in the bedroom what they do in every other room, sex cannot be faked. All too often, fears,...

Full Respect Living Part One: Healthy Self-Esteem Let’s talk about the relationship between you and you. I have a saying. In adulthood, we tend to hold ourselves the way we were held. We internalize what came at us and now we throw it at ourselves. If you were...

In this blog, I share with you different ways to work with Carried Feelings. Sometimes as therapists, working with past trauma and shame can be a heavy, but lifting process. In working with carried feelings, you can have the person literally in their minds’ eye, scoop...

Psychodrama & Doubling – a technique which is particularly helpful in trauma work and one I use often with couples where I speak for the inner voice of what’s being said, and they get to correct it. When you double for somebody while in a session, you have to...